Updated: Dec 31, 2021
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Took down all mention of Jeanine on my weblog because she would not return $450 in artwork until I did. I purchased it from a friend of hers and the artwork was left behind in California for us to pick up when we moved back there.
We made it to the road trip part of the move, but the relationship dissolved in Phoenix after we got stuck there a few days due to a blown tire on car. That happened when I was passing someone and Jeanine said, “Punch it.” So, I did. It is not like I needed any encouragement to do so. And I hit a pothole in the middle of the freeway going ninety-five miles an hour. As good of place as any to start the story of our how our time together ended.
In my experience, Jeanine does not manage stressful situations well. She decided to Uber into Phoenix which was about thirty miles away and left me on the side of a busy freeway waiting for a tow. Okay with that because in the recent past I had been victim of her inability to manage stressful situations in similar stressful circumstances.
She was overly cautious about Covid 19 most of the time. But then occasionally, she would relax her stance. She did not want to stay with Philip and Rachel Brandt at first. Then we went to dinner with them, and she decided to go to their house to spend the night. Then the next day, she wanted to leave early because she was worried about Covid 19 again.
Before we got to Phoenix, I do not recall where, but she had told me the only way she would eat inside is by an open window to the outside. This is important to the story, please remember that fact.
So, we were in Phoenix a couple of days waiting for the car to get repaired. And I will tell you she does not like it when I go on my cell phone. And I agree with her on that. Not present when I am doing that. But I had told her after she shut down talking to me for several hours that I was sorry, but I needed gentler reminders more than just being shut out. She agreed. Well, it happens again in the hotel, and she was not too gentle with me. We got through that. Then the last day we were together we were sitting in a Restaurant next to a floor to ceiling window that was open on a table where no one was near us. Received a message from the Dealer telling me the rim was cracked and they were trying to find a new one. Aware that Jeanine did not manage these kinds of situations well and that she was understandably eager to get back to California to get her vaccination shot, I told her let us not engage in any kind of blame game for the news I was about to share with her. Beating me up was not going to make it go faster. So, I told her……. And then shortly after she started on my about me not wearing a mask. I did put it on when someone came near the table, but I admit, I left the mask off most of the time as the restaurant was not busy and we were sitting right next to open air floor to ceiling.
So, she starts in on me verbally and I respond with her early comment about being by a window and I thought I was being responsible. She then got up and left the table with all her materials and her dog and went across the street and sat in the park. If she could have left it at that, we may be still together. But she could not leave it at that. In fact, if you want to know why I couldn’t take it, go and read my blog post on Bullying. That is what it felt like to me. And I am not going to put up with any behavior that is remotely close to it either. And remember, I had difficulty speaking at that point and can not speak at all now.
Jeanine Text: Did I want to keep working in a cooler location? Yes
Jeanine: Do I like sitting in the hot sun? No.
Russ: No comment.
Jeanine: Do I enjoy having to be the responsible One? No.
Jeanine: Do I feel shitty, upset, and trapped? Yes.
Jeanine: Am I part of a team where both partners equally carry the burden? No.
Russ: I am sitting by an open window; mask goes on when anyone gets close. Not sure why you are nitpicking.
Jeanine: Would I like that? Hell, yeah.
Russ: I am not a punching bag.
Russ: For when you are frustrated.
Jeanine: I am not treating you as a punching bag. You are behaving like an adolescent. Why is it important to keep our masks on? Be we are in the middle of a pandemic; Case levels are rising, and it is important to set an example for Covidiots.
Jeanine: But fuck it Why should that matter?
Jeanine: When it is so much easier to get defensive. And blame for being nitpicky.
Will interrupt these messages to say I said to myself after this string of texts, one more and I am done with her. Now back to the messages.
Jeanine: I keep hoping for a partner.
Jeanine: Apparently, I am not worth it.
Russ: I am done.
And that was it. Got the car, drove her to Tucson and rented her a car and she took it back to the Bay Area and I headed back to San Antonio.
Then she texted this to me on April 7th.
Jeanine: Please do not ever again broadcast what goes on between us to the global community.
And I would have respected that wish, but that was not enough for her. She sent me this text on
Jeanine: CeCe is issuing you a refund. Consulted a lawyer. If you continue to harass or otherwise intimidate me or post negative comments about me online, I will file a suit under California Penal code sections 647 (j)(4) and (B). Goodbye.
Now that was a bit too much to threaten me with. Dying from ALS so first things first, I will not last to a trial date. In California, where I do not live. So, I am curious how they will sue me in another state. And I also worked in the Newspaper industry for over 40 years and have a surprisingly good grasp of free speech and how it works. And if I am truthful, I am allowed to have an opinion. And as I was penning this post, I decided to look up California Penal code sections 647 (j) (4) (A) and (B). And here is the code below. It strikes me as not related to anything I am doing, so it is not threatening to me. The only image I am using is a picture of her from her website and crediting that site for the picture. And will take it down if requested to.
DEFINING PC 647(J)(4) REVENGE PORN
Revenge porn is considered non-consensual pornography. The use of fear and intimidation by spreading another person's sexually explicit image/video is illegal and is punishable by jail time.
California Penal Code Section 647 (j)(4) protects victims of revenge porn by making it illegal to distribute sexually explicit pictures or videos of a person to others. It is defined in as:
“Anyone who intentionally distributes an image of the intimate body part or depicting them in sexual intercourse, oral copulation, sodomy, sexual penetration, or masturbation, under circumstances in which they understand that the image shall remain private, the person distributing the image knows or should know distribution of the image will cause serious emotional distress, and the person depicted suffers that distress.”
This means that any person who intentionally distributes an image or video of another person's intimate body parts or them engaging in sexual acts is committing a misdemeanor offense.
Intimate body parts include the genitals, anus, or any portion of female breasts.
A common example of revenge porn includes a situation where someone takes naked pictures of their intimate partner, but after an ugly breakup, they post the images online on Facebook.
Elements of the crime
The circumstances under which PC 647 (j)(4) apply include:
if there was an understanding between the victim and the defendant that the images or videos will remain private.
prior knowledge that publishing the material would cause the victim severe emotional distress.
the victim is experiencing distress as the result of the published images.
if the defendant should have known the repercussions of their actions.
It does not matter if the person in the images is above the age of consent or if the alleged victim permitted the defendant to have those images prior.
And here is section (A) and (B)
(4) (A) A person who intentionally distributes the image of the intimate body part or parts of another identifiable person, or an image of the person depicted engaged in an act of sexual intercourse, sodomy, oral copulation, sexual penetration, or an image of masturbation by the person depicted or in which the person depicted participates, under circumstances in which the persons agree or understand that the image shall remain private, the person distributing the image knows or should know that distribution of the image will cause serious emotional distress, and the person depicted suffers that distress.
(B) A person intentionally distributes an image described in subparagraph (A) when that person personally distributes the image, or arranges, specifically requests, or intentionally causes another person to distribute that image.
So, I do not think I am taking any risk here talking about a chapter of my life and my perspective on it. But I am not too afraid of being sued for Revenge Porn when all I am doing is describing the events that cause me to pull the plug on the relationship.